Guys who don’t know how to read a situation often start talking about their ex-girlfriends out of the blue. When you are on the receiving end of this conversation, you might shudder and think, “Wait, why is he talking about her now?” We surveyed guys to find reasons they talk to their girlfriends about their exes.
“Actually, I’m not really experienced. Depending on the situation, I sometimes pretend that people who I didn’t even date properly were my exes.” Guys talk about their exes because they don’t want their girlfriends to think they are inexperienced. He’s just trying to act tough, so try to go easy on him.
“I do this when my girlfriend is not affectionate or when I sense that I feel more for her than she feels for me.” Guys talk about their exes because they want their girlfriends to get jealous. A mature way to respond to this would be to deliberately act jealous for him.
“I do this when I want my girlfriend to put more effort into cooking.” Guys talk about their exes because their girlfriends lack the special skills their exes had. If your boyfriend mentions things like, “My ex was a really good cook” or “My ex was really organized,” you could make an effort to improve the points he specifically mentions.
“I want my girlfriend to understand that I tend to fall for a specific type of girls.” Guys talk about their exes when their current girlfriends remind them of their exes. This might not be a conversation you are keen to listen to, but try to show you can be tolerant by responding, “Ok, I see.”
“Your first love forms the foundation, so I think this will help my girlfriend understand how I approach romance.” Guys talk about their exes because they want their girlfriends to know about their first loves. This will make you want to cover your ears, but you could also counter this by talking about your own first love.
“I think we can have an even better relationship than before by being honest about what happened in the past.” Guys talk about their exes because they don’t want to keep things from their girlfriends. You can gain useful information from this, like “Oh, this is what causes him to leave a relationship.”
“I think romance tells a lot about people’s personalities and the way they act.” Guys talk about their exes because they want their girlfriends to understand more about them. You can also find out how tolerant your boyfriend is by talking about your ex-boyfriends, like “Then, I want you to know about me too.” However, there is always a risk that your boyfriend might decide to break up with you because he cannot handle the conversation.
“I want her to be the best girlfriend I’ve ever had. I say good things about my ex, and I hope my girlfriend will be even better.” Some guys talk about their exes because they want you to be even more amazing than their exes. If you don’t agree with your boyfriend, you could ask him, “Would you genuinely accept this if you were put in my position?”
“I start talking about other girls when I feel less interested in my current girlfriend.” Some guys talk about their exes because they think they should move on from their current relationships. If your boyfriend starts talking about happy memories with his ex, who is quite the opposite of you, it might be a sign that your relationship is coming to an end.
Published: August 04, 2017