The vast majority of people don’t keep in touch with their exes, but in rare cases exes choose to remain friends. This time, we surveyed Japanese girls to discuss moments when they are grateful to have their exes as close friends.
“It’s great that he can reflect on our relationship and give me advice so I don’t mess things up with my current boyfriend.” You can be your ex-girlfriend’s dating coach based on your own experiences with her. However, she might get upset if you criticize her for what happened in the past, so share your views only when she comes to you for advice.
“He knows my musicality inside out, and now he’s my favorite bandmate.” Exes form a special kind of friendship because they are very familiar with what the other person likes. You and your ex could make a great team once you are over your romantic feelings for each other.
“He happily agreed to help me out, and that helped me to see him in a new light.” Giving your ex a hand when she needs it by helping her in your area of expertise, regardless of how your relationship ended, can impress her with your generosity.
“It’s so easy with him because I can open up to him more than I do with my regular guy friends.” Women feel comfortable inviting their exes out because they know each other’s lifestyles. Once you are no longer in love with your ex, you might feel comfortable in her company as a best friend.
“He also knows my family. He helped me cope when my mom was sick.” You can be there for your ex-girlfriend in times of serious trouble. When she talks to you about her concerns, don’t pity her by saying “that must have been hard for you,” because it can sound patronizing. Instead, empathize with how she feels.
“We just take it as how it is and make it work.” You can continue interacting with your mutual circle of friends without making things awkward. Your ex will feel comfortable hanging out with you and the group if you make an active effort to include her.
“He knows both my strengths and shortcomings.” You can give your ex-girlfriend honest advice when you know how she thinks and you know her friends. Brainstorm with her to figure out what’s in her best interests in the long run and you will continue to be an essential part of her life.
“I feel that our friendly competition helps us grow.” Being painfully aware of each other’s dreams and goals can help exes build a great friendship. One reader told us, “We count on each other for support when we face challenges at work.” This shows that you can also help each other in difficult times.
“He’s like family.” Women can share their ex-boyfriends’ happiness when they are still an important part of their lives. It’s rare for people to continue caring for each other after their romantic relationship is over, but you also know that your life is richer when you have more people who you value like a family member.
Last updated: October 15, 2017