After you’ve been dating a while, you feel like you can say anything to each other. Even so, there are a few things that can hit your Japanese girlfriend nerves the wrong way. Today, based on survey responses from Japanese girls, we introduce the top 9 comments that are sure to tick her off.
“Excuse me! I’m sure you can do everything perfectly!” She’s not really good at figuring out her computer, but you don’t have to be sarcastic about it. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Instead of mocking her, look for her strengths and praise them.
She suggested a date spot but you dismissed it without offering an alternative idea. “He should participate in planning our date.” It’s not just her date, it’s yours too, and if you’re unwilling to contribute, she’ll get annoyed. If you feel strongly about her suggestion, follow up with a reason why and offer some alternatives.
“Why does he always bring up my age?!” She probably took hours to select her outfit for the date and not only did you fail to appreciate her effort, you literally called her “old.” Even when the relationship becomes comfortable, it’s simply good etiquette not to make a negative comment about her age.
You turn a suspicious eye on her friendship with another guy. Don’t assume that your belief is always correct. There’s plenty of debate about whether you can have a true friendship with the opposite sex. It all depends on the individual. First and foremost, do not accuse her of infidelity without concrete evidence. If you’re simply jealous, tell her jokingly that you’re envious of their strong ties.
“What if I tell him that he can’t understand because he’s a man? I’m sure he’d be upset.” You make a generalized assumption based on gender and you don’t even try to explain why. Of course she’ll be irritated. Regardless of the topic, always be prepared to have an open conversation.
“Good for her. He shouldn’t have broken up with her.” It’s extremely insensitive to compare your current girlfriend to your ex. And you must be out of your mind to imply that something about your ex was better than your current girlfriend. Even when the comparison is positive, you’re walking a tightrope.
“Excuse me, but I was enjoying my meal! He’s the one who picked this restaurant.” When you’re overly critical about the food being served, it ruins the atmosphere for her. Even if you don’t like it, you’re not a food critic, so stop at “it’s interesting.” Also exercise good manners and finish your plate.
“If he doesn’t care, I’m not gonna sit here talking to him. I’m going home!” It may be insignificant to you, but it’s important to her that you care. When you’re on a date, be involved in the conversation and be ready to answer her questions, however trivial you feel they are.
“It’s not the quantity, it’s the quality!” Friendship comes in different shapes and forms. You have no right to pass judgment on how she maintains her friendships. Know that some people prefer to keep a small but tight circle of friends. Don’t apply your standards to others.
Last updated: October 17, 2017