Sometime you may get carried away and come way before she’s satisfied. This is a time you feel like apologizing, but depending on the way you say it, she may feel more angry than forgiving. So we surveyed our Japanese female readers to bring you 8 bad excuses men make for coming before their Japanese girlfriend, so you won’t make the same mistake in the future.
“So he’s using work as an excuse?” If you were the one that initiated sex, then your Japanese girlfriend may think you’re contradicting yourself. If you are tired from work, let her know before you even start having sex so she’s aware of the situation and you two can have a more relaxed session together.
“Then he shouldn’t even try having sex in the first place!” Some Japanese girls will feel misled. Let her know you’re taking measures to improve things by saying things like “But I do get better when I drink water and I should get back up again” so she knows you’re still making an effort to pleasure her.
“I’ll believe it when I see it…” This will sound like a pathetic excuse. If you really want to give a reason, say things like “You’re just too beautiful, I couldn’t hold back any longer.” Compliments should make her feel happy.
“He sounds so desperate, it’s a turn-off.” Apologizing can actually ruin the mood, so be careful. Instead of apologizing for the rest of the night, try for a second round and please her all you can until she is satisfied.
“Being crass doesn’t really resonate with me.” Your Japanese girl may not sympathize with the problem of blue balls. Even if you explain the situation from a physiological perspective, it’s just another excuse. Next time you feel like it’s been a while, let her know how excited you are to be having sex again—and warn her that it might be hard to last long.
“How can he get things so wrong?” This excuse makes you sound clueless about sex in general and about her in particular. Just be honest and say “Sorry, I got the timing wrong” and keep your fingers crossed that she will forgive you.
“I’m the one who’s got every right to feel frustrated!” Getting angry will only make things worse. Your Japanese girlfriend won’t be happy if you lash out, so just say “I’m sorry” and get over it.
“How selfish can you be?” Japanese girls will get turned off by such a comment. Next time, try asking her things like “Did you want me to last longer?” Don’t be afraid to ask her how she feels— then use the information to make improvements.
Last updated: November 04, 2017