7 Things Men Say to a Japanese Girlfriend that are Turn-Offs

Sweet words during sex can spice things up for sure—some phrases can definitely help in building the mood—but saying the wrong thing at the wrong time is a major turn-off. We surveyed our Japanese female readers to bring you 7 things that no woman wants to hear.

  • 1. “Doesn’t it feel good? Doesn’t it? How is it?”

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    “When he asks me so often, it gets really annoying.” Some Japanese girls will get fed up if you ask too much, because it sounds like you just want reassurance. Instead of focusing on whether you’ve made her feel good, ask her things like “Does it hurt?” to show her you care about her overall experience.

  • 2. “Haven’t you come yet?”

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    “Who does he think he is!?” This is definitely inconsiderate and also big-headed. Yes, you may be confident in your skills, but stay humble and ask her in a nicer way like, “Can I do anything to help you come?” You can also say something like “I won’t come until you’re satisfied,” so she knows you care about her.

  • 3. “Mmmm yummy…” while you’re licking her entire body

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    “I’m not food!” This could be appropriate to say when you’re going down on a Japanese girl, as many Japanese girls feel insecure about how they taste down there. It’s reassuring for her if you’re not repulsed by her juices down there, but you don’t have to make it sound like you’re eating dinner.

  • 4. Saying “Let’s make babies” and not using contraceptives

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    “I don’t think he really wants kids.” Some men will try this because they want to feel more pleasure by avoiding using condoms. This is irresponsible and will only be a turn-off for her. If you’re married, make sure both of you are on the same page before you really talk about having kids.

  • 5. Moaning in a “girly” voice

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    “It’s disturbing.” It’s easy to get carried away with pleasure. In the heat of the moment you might make some strange sounds, but do be careful. If you feel like you want to express how much pleasure you’re feeling, make some soft (but manly) grunts.

  • 6. “Say you love me!”

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    “Why is he forcing me to say it?” Some Japanese girls feel uncomfortable making statements of affection, especially if they feel they’re under pressure to do so. Being forced to say it means it’s not genuine. If you want to hear it from her, say it first. Say “I love you” with sincerity, and you’ll be sure to hear what you want in return.

  • 7. “Can I put it in this hole?” and try to do anal

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    “It’s just not my thing.” This will be something out of most women’s comfort zones. If you’re in a long-term relationship with enough trust built between the two of you, then maybe it’s okay to bring it up. However, if you’ve only been dating for a short while, asking for anal sex is a bit extreme.

Last updated: November 04, 2017