9 Things Boyfriends of Japanese Girlfriends Need to Help Each Other Grow

In an ideal relationship, couples can help each other grow. But how can you achieve such a relationship with your Japanese girlfriend? This time, we introduce nine things boyfriends of Japanese girlfriends need to help each other grow based on our survey of Japanese girls.

  • 1. Value friendships and broaden your horizons

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    “If you are too dependent on your partner, your life will be limited to your relationship.” Maintaining good friendships can help couples broaden each other’s perspectives. If people see you as someone who prioritizes your romantic relationship, you need to make an effort to be available for your friends.

  • 2. Respect the differences in your values

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    “Relationships don’t go well unless you accept that it’s normal that you are different.” Accepting values that are different from your own is the right thing to do. Instead of bending your values to match your partner’s or changing your views, give yourselves the space to enjoy your differences.

  • 3. Don’t hesitate to let your partner know when he or she has done something wrong

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    “We are doing our best not to be too comfortable with each other.” If you love your partner, let him or her know that what’s wrong is wrong. This will help both of you improve. Make sure you reassure your partner that you’re pointing out a mistake because you love him or her to avoid getting into an argument.

  • 4. Don’t tie each other down, and make time for yourself

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    “My idea of an ideal relationship is one that lets me and my partner pursue our interests so we can help each other learn something new.” Sharing your individual experiences can not only help you both learn but also help you strengthen your relationship bond—it’s like killing two birds with one stone! Don’t be so fixated on doing things together. You should focus more on the quality and not the quantity of your dates.

  • 5. Take responsibility when it comes to money

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    “Borrowing and lending money can mess up your relationship.” Financial disagreements, no matter how small, can be a big obstacle to sustaining your relationship. You don’t always need to split the bill, but try to give and take proportionally so your relationship remains balanced.

  • 6. Find a passion outside of your relationship

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    “It’s not good when your love life is the only thing that keeps you going.” Taking care of your own life, from your work to your hobbies, is a prerequisite to achieving a relationship in which you and your partner can help each other grow. This is also a great way to protect yourself against the potential domino effect that a failed relationship may bring to the rest of your life.

  • 7. Tell each other about your strengths

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    “Being praised by the person you love is the best kind of encouragement you can get.” Recognizing each other’s efforts and strengths can do wonders for your motivation. You will see the best in each other by purposefully looking for each other’s strengths, and this can even make you fall even deeper in love.

  • 8. Have a discussion instead of getting upset at each other

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    “We usually have a discussion about how we can grow after an argument.” Couples who are focused on growth know how to turn the negative experience of bumping heads into something positive. Try to address how you can improve your relationship by asking, “How can we fix what doesn’t work for us?” This will help you find a solution.

  • 9. Don’t snoop on your partner’s phone, and don’t intrude on each other’s privacy

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    “It’s important that we treat each other as independent adults.” It’s difficult to be a good influence on each other when you invade your partner’s privacy in the name of love. Keep in mind that giving each other some space and privacy can be beneficial, and be careful not to overstep the boundaries your partner sets.

Last updated: October 15, 2017