When you’re breaking up with your Japanese girlfriend, you might be surprised to know that she feels offended by even well-intended comments. This time, we introduce examples of breakup lines men commonly used that irritate women and the reasons why they’re so irritating.
You’ve already hurt your Japanese girlfriend enough by suggesting that you break up—this line just rubs salt into the wound. She knows you are saying this to protect yourself because you don’t want to be the bad guy and not because you care about her and you don’t want her to get hurt. Beware because women are especially sensitive to deceitfulness during a breakup.
Most Japanese girls will not be understanding when you start a sentence with the words, “I’m not sure…” You’re trying to make it sound like you care about your girlfriend’s happiness, but at the end of the day, she will conclude that you’re looking for an easy way out. This breakup line is best avoided if you don’t want to seem sneaky.
This sends mixed signals and makes your Japanese girlfriend wonder why you even need to break up. Most Japanese girls will find it easier to move on when their boyfriends say, “I don’t love you anymore,” even if it’s a lie.
This line gives the impression that the breakup is amicable. However, the dumpee will resent you for saying it, and your Japanese girlfriend might think, “What I deserve is none of your business” or “I don’t need to hear that from you.” Your girlfriend might even resist the breakup, thinking “But why don’t you get that you are the one I want.” This breakup line can create a vicious cycle, so it’s best avoided.
These words can be interpreted very differently depending on the context of your breakup. If you have a compelling reason, like professional circumstances, and the breakup is mutual, it can genuinely sum up the way you feel. However, it can make things worse when the breakup is one-sided by making your girlfriend think you are just saying it to make her feel better. Remember to be sensitive when you use this line.
Even if this is how you honestly feel, being too blunt can further complicate your situation. It’s better to say something like, “I’m sorry but I can’t do this anymore,” when you are breaking up with your Japanese girlfriend because you are tired of your relationship. You should also look apologetic while saying so.
This sounds genuine, but you don’t sound convincing unless you and your Japanese girlfriend have already discussed and agreed on what commitment means in your relationship. We often think of marriage when we talk about commitment in a relationship. But is this the kind of commitment you and your girlfriend have discussed? Think about this for a while before you use this line with your girlfriend.
This might sound like you are encouraging your Japanese girlfriend and being supportive, but essentially, this is what guys say when they want to pursue other women. If your Japanese girlfriend is good at reading people, she might notice what you are actually trying to say, which is: “I think you’ll manage on your own, but I need to be there for someone else.” Be careful because she might resent you for neglecting her.
Last updated: October 08, 2017