So he’s not your type and you are not interested in him at all, but are you aware that some of your insensitive actions are actually hurting him? Even when you don’t see any future together, you should refrain from doing things that are unpleasant or distasteful. Today, we asked a group of young, single men, ranging in age from their late teens through their late 20s, to share their experiences with some of the objectionable behaviors that have offended them.
“I guess it’s a natural reflex, but when she widened her eyes to put on her mascara, I felt a sense of despair,” a dismayed male in his late teens shared. To begin with, putting makeup on in public is very unladylike, and you should try to limit the practice to the occasional lip balm application if you must. Besides that, after this breach of common-sense etiquette, he will consider it a sign that you don’t view him as part of the opposite sex, much less a prospective boyfriend.
“She reveals her ugly side by bad-mouthing others in front of me, and it’s a clear indication on how little my opinion matters to her,” a disappointed man in his late 20s says. Men are quite sensitive to your moral standards. Your inability to suppress your darker side can damage your reputation beyond repair. If you need his advice on an issue, ask him if he can help you, and be fair and diplomatic with your narrative.
“I only recently got over the fact that she’s not interested in me, but now she goes on and on about my friend…” a young man in his late teens sighed. “I get depressed just thinking about it.” It’s utterly insensitive of you to talk about someone you like in front of him, especially if you know how he feels about you. You need to be considerate by showing some interest in his latest romantic interests. Ask him, “Have you found someone you like?” and you may be able to offer him some support.
“I’m sure she would be on her best behavior in front of a guy she likes. That makes me a nobody in her eyes,” an appalled man in his early 20s states. People around you will be disgusted by your rude and uncaring demeanor. Regardless of who happens to be around, you need to take responsibility for your own conduct.
One frustrated man in his late 20s revealed, “It’s really offensive to know that she’s talking to me only to phish information from me.” Whether or not that’s your primary focus, relentless questions about his best friend will raise doubts in his mind. If that is indeed your main drive, it’s better to be honest and seek his support, rather than ruin your friendship in the process.
Published: November 28, 2018